My attorney told me it wouldn't work. The court will look at previous earnings or earning potential. You're still going to pay.
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My attorney told me it wouldn't work. The court will look at previous earnings or earning potential. You're still going to pay.
All good advice. Its crazy how much it costs even if things are amicable..
Do all lawyers pay extra for postage and phone bills ... or was it just mine?
:wink:Do all lawyers pay extra for postage and phone bills ... or was it just mine?
You didn't get charged $1.00 per page that was photocopied?
You didn't get charged $1.00 per page that was photocopied?
I remember reading about this guy who was falsely accused of a crime and was going to trial to clear his name. In order to get the minutes from his first trial he had to pay 4 dollars a page.
You didn't get charged $1.00 per page that was photocopied?
I always liked the "I had to call her attorney." So they spoke for two minutes and I was billed for 15 minutes at $300 per hour. I think my attorney spoke to her attorney more than he spoke with me. Hay, let's just drag this along, we're on the gravy train...
Now I have to laugh but it was a pain in the butt then.
If it's amicable why do you need attorneys?
I asked the same thing.. and the answer "So that everything is done 'correctly' " The only thing that gets done correctly is theft going on amongst attorneys.
My ex hired an attorney that must have graduated and recieved his degree from some online law school. I would always tell the ex to have her attorney prepare documents for me to review with my attorney (cheaper for me), however the guy was so bad that my attorney would have to not only have to review a document with me, but rewrite the whole thing! It ended up costing me more money than if I had him do it in the first place.
If there is not alot to divide up an arbitrator would work just fine... Mine was fairly straightforward and still cost me enough that I could've had a new CTSC amongst other things!!!!
However in the end .. money well spent! Hope I never have to go through another.. prenup or not.
hell...buy her a very deep diamond mine.....hehheh.
i tell y'all about my experience!! sucks now, but my
nsx buds keep me goin.
LOL, well that would probably work with a new diamond every couple of years
"so honey i was just thinking about how my freind tiffany is getting married"
"oh what were you saying? you want to go shopping at harry winston tomorrow?" pwned:tongue:
I tried to find the details of this story online but failed... my friend told me of something he read quite a while back where this guy who was going through a divorce won the lottery. He told noone, set up a new life overseas during the one year he had to claim him winnings, then on the last day he could claim, he showed up, somehow managed to get the $$$ without his wife finding out, and vanished from the country with the lottery winnings.
Ah young one....you will, oh, you will....lol
I am very glad that I did get married. Best thing I ever did. I guess it's different for everyone.
From a female viewpoint: Advance apologies for the long story... but, I have to point out that women arent the only ones trying to get that all mighty dime (although I do acknowledge that there are a lot of money grubbing bitches out there):
I got married the first time at 19. That lasted 3 years before I had had enough of basically living alone and filed for divorce. We were young, stupid, and poor but he still tried to screw me.
I bought my house (paid cash for it) about 6 months before we got married. It was in my name alone before the wedding. I never put it in his name so it wasn't an issue in the divorce although he did try to get the judge to force me to sell and give him half.
My dad had given him a used truck about 3 months before we seperated. Nothing fancy, an small Nissan. It was worth about $5,000 at the time but the week he moved out, he traded it in on the truck he had wanted for years. The dealership gave him $1,000. Dumb ass.
Our tax return came in about mid March of that year. He didn't leave until October. I used 1/2 of the return to fix our AC and buy a cert. of deposit for our son. He claimed in court that I refused to let him have that money. However, he took the other half along with some money my dad had given us (about $1500 total) and spent it on PS games and DVDs, all of which he packed and took with him (along with all the videos, CDs, and DVDs that were mine before I even met him.)
Now, when we went to mediation (because he's a complete tool and would make agreements with me about material things then tell his lawyer something else) he said that I took 100% of the tax return and he didn't get anything. His attorney and mine went back and forth on this. I told them about the games, etc and his attorney insisted that he, "did not get the mutual benefit from the joint tax return." UGH! So, half of the amount went towards his child support payments.
When I brought up the truck, he said that the truck was his and I didn't have a right to any money from that. My attorney proved otherwise and got a whopping $500 added back to my side. During all of this (in front of the lawyers, I might add) he repeated several times, "You owe me." "You have to pay me." WTF-EVER!
In the end, he got out of paying 18 months in child support. His attorney (who took on his cace for free because she was a family friend) told me that I should be glad she wasn't having me pay it out of pocket. Whatever, bitch. We had been seperated for over a year and he had not paid one penny of child support... but she was doing ME a favor.
He also had a restriction put on me stating that I could not establish my son's place of residence outside of the county we lived in or any adjoining county. Nice stripping of my constitutional rights, ThankYouVeryMuch.
To top off the whole thing, 2 weeks before we went to court (after 18 months of BS back and forth... and me racking up HUGE attorney fees because of it) he quit his job. They then based his child support on minimun wage, bringing his grand monthly total to $153. He refused to get insurance on our son. I had him on a private policy from birth so he didn't lose any medical coverage but my ex kept trying to get me to cancel the policy saying I was forcing him to buy insurance. (He's never, to this day, made one payment towards our son's insurance.)
So, in the end, I had to "pay" him a few thousand which was a big deal at the time... when you're living paycheck to paycheck. He only pays child support now because he got $10,000+ in the hole and started getting nasty-grams from the attorney general.
Divorce sucks, yeah. It brings out the true character in everyone. I'm married again and am moving out in a few months. This time around he understands why I'm leaving and I have nothing for him to get. All I want are the things I came into the marriage with and my 2 boys. He can visit all he wants, whenever he wants, but my boys live with me. That's my only "demand" and he knows it.
I dont understand the women who try to get every single penny they can and I certainly dont get the ones who try to make the guys life miserable in the process. Why is she entitled to everything he's worked for?
And the ones who are fortunate enough to be married to someone with a good chunk of money.... they're the worst, I think. Look at Heather Mills. They offered her, what? $150million, I think and she refused. WTF? Are you stupid? She doesnt deserve even that, IMO... but, at this point (like SO many other women), she's proven that she's just an overpriced hooker.
OK, OK.... stepping off my soapbox.
I got married the first time at 19. That lasted 3 years before I had had enough of basically living alone and filed for divorce. We were young, stupid, and poor but he still tried to screw me.
I bought my house (paid cash for it) about 6 months before we got married. It was in my name alone before the wedding. I never put it in his name so it wasn't an issue in the divorce although he did try to get the judge to force me to sell and give him half.
My dad had given him a used truck about 3 months before we seperated. Nothing fancy, an small Nissan. It was worth about $5,000 at the time but the week he moved out, he traded it in on the truck he had wanted for years. The dealership gave him $1,000. Dumb ass.
Our tax return came in about mid March of that year. He didn't leave until October. I used 1/2 of the return to fix our AC and buy a cert. of deposit for our son. He claimed in court that I refused to let him have that money. However, he took the other half along with some money my dad had given us (about $1500 total) and spent it on PS games and DVDs, all of which he packed and took with him (along with all the videos, CDs, and DVDs that were mine before I even met him.)
Now, when we went to mediation (because he's a complete tool and would make agreements with me about material things then tell his lawyer something else) he said that I took 100% of the tax return and he didn't get anything. His attorney and mine went back and forth on this. I told them about the games, etc and his attorney insisted that he, "did not get the mutual benefit from the joint tax return." UGH! So, half of the amount went towards his child support payments.
When I brought up the truck, he said that the truck was his and I didn't have a right to any money from that. My attorney proved otherwise and got a whopping $500 added back to my side. During all of this (in front of the lawyers, I might add) he repeated several times, "You owe me." "You have to pay me." WTF-EVER!
In the end, he got out of paying 18 months in child support. His attorney (who took on his cace for free because she was a family friend) told me that I should be glad she wasn't having me pay it out of pocket. Whatever, bitch. We had been seperated for over a year and he had not paid one penny of child support... but she was doing ME a favor.
He also had a restriction put on me stating that I could not establish my son's place of residence outside of the county we lived in or any adjoining county. Nice stripping of my constitutional rights, ThankYouVeryMuch.
To top off the whole thing, 2 weeks before we went to court (after 18 months of BS back and forth... and me racking up HUGE attorney fees because of it) he quit his job. They then based his child support on minimun wage, bringing his grand monthly total to $153. He refused to get insurance on our son. I had him on a private policy from birth so he didn't lose any medical coverage but my ex kept trying to get me to cancel the policy saying I was forcing him to buy insurance. (He's never, to this day, made one payment towards our son's insurance.)
So, in the end, I had to "pay" him a few thousand which was a big deal at the time... when you're living paycheck to paycheck. He only pays child support now because he got $10,000+ in the hole and started getting nasty-grams from the attorney general.
Divorce sucks, yeah. It brings out the true character in everyone. I'm married again and am moving out in a few months. This time around he understands why I'm leaving and I have nothing for him to get. All I want are the things I came into the marriage with and my 2 boys. He can visit all he wants, whenever he wants, but my boys live with me. That's my only "demand" and he knows it.
I dont understand the women who try to get every single penny they can and I certainly dont get the ones who try to make the guys life miserable in the process. Why is she entitled to everything he's worked for?
And the ones who are fortunate enough to be married to someone with a good chunk of money.... they're the worst, I think. Look at Heather Mills. They offered her, what? $150million, I think and she refused. WTF?
Are you stupid? She doesnt deserve even that, IMO... but, at this point (like SO many other women), she's proven that she's just an overpriced hooker.OK, OK.... stepping off my soapbox.
+100 Heather Mills needs to shut the F*ck up!
"Oh the press are calling me a goldgigger and it made me try to commit suicide" boo hoo!
B*tch if you didn't have 150 million before you got married and he's offering to give it to you now take it and get the f*ck on!
She's trying to get half of money he had before she was born the one legged HO!
Sorry ,but that particular case really steams me! If she was being treated so bad she could've left long ago. If someone is mistreating you you don't care about money you just want to get away from them and have peace.
If kids aren't involved it should just be you take your stuff and I'll take mine. All this other stuff is why people try and kill their spouses LOL
"Oh the press are calling me a goldgigger and it made me try to commit suicide" boo hoo!
B*tch if you didn't have 150 million before you got married and he's offering to give it to you now take it and get the f*ck on!
She's trying to get half of money he had before she was born the one legged HO!
Sorry ,but that particular case really steams me! If she was being treated so bad she could've left long ago. If someone is mistreating you you don't care about money you just want to get away from them and have peace.
If kids aren't involved it should just be you take your stuff and I'll take mine. All this other stuff is why people try and kill their spouses LOL
+100 Heather Mills needs to shut the F*ck up!
"Oh the press are calling me a goldgigger and it made me try to commit suicide" boo hoo!
B*tch if you didn't have 150 million before you got married and he's offering to give it to you now take it and get the f*ck on!
She's trying to get half of money he had before she was born the one legged HO!
Sorry ,but that particular case really steams me! If she was being treated so bad she could've left long ago. If someone is mistreating you you don't care about money you just want to get away from them and have peace.
If kids aren't involved it should just be you take your stuff and I'll take mine. All this other stuff is why people try and kill their spouses LOL
Imagine hating someone so much you are willing to spend 150 million for them to go away. There has to be a cheaper way!
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Indeed! LOL. You have a way with words, Steve. Next time i'm in NY, we have to get some beers.
Pre-nuptual agreement...... You wouldn't start a business, drive, own a home, etc..... without getting insurance, would you???? You're gonna be taken to the cleaners....
dyee
This maybe a safe method but if you are considering a prenumpt then chances are your looking at the wrong reasons to get married or have not found the right person. There is no gaurantee in life live today like its your last day.
opps. Looks like we have a new contest-ant. (says low and slow)GET A PRENUP. IF SHE IS THE RIGHT ONE SHE WILL SIGN IT. IF SHE IS THE RIGHT ONE IT WON"T MATTER THAT YOU ASKED FOR IT. IF NOTHING BAD HAPPENS THEN YOU WON"T NEED IT SO WHY NOT JUST SIGN IT!
Eh he has billions so maybe to him it's worth it. No the cheaper way is to have them "go away" :wink:
No people think prenup because people can and do change. To any guy with money a woman is going to put her best foot forward. "Ms right" would actually tell a man they should do a prenup as life happens. If a woman brings that up says have your lawyer draw up something for me to sign
You better believe that's MS RIGHT!
For the win!!!:wink:
What if you want a prenumpt YEARS before even meeting her. It's not something personal.
From my experience, I met someone once who I truely fell in love with. Thought I was going to marry her. She changed like a light switch it seemed like. From the coolest, most amazing chick in the world to this evil self-involved spawn of satan. To see someone change like that opened my eyes. I've also seen people with 40 years of marriage under their belt cheat on and then divorce each other.
I've just seen too much to put all my money down on a 50/50 bet when the bet isn't even required.
I had girls do the same thing. Almost 100% of time they had gone off their medication. I wish I was :biggrin: but it really is true and makes me
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No it's not because your protecting yourself from a situation as you described, self preservation bro that's all it mean's. If a girl wont sign a prenup she's a money grubbing ho and does not truelly love you for YOU!
Our family will soon be accumilating huge sum's of money from our old family ranch which sit's on a HUGE natural gas reserve, mineral right's should be about $1M a month, and I will be getting a premarital prenup made up asap.
Lookout for numero uno to start with.
I had girls do the same thing. Almost 100% of time they had gone off their medication. I wish I was :biggrin: but it really is true and makes me
I'll say in fairness that men change to ,but generally we let our bad habits out from the beginning. If a guy is constantly eyeing women and flirting before he gets married he'll do the same thing after. Rings are easy to slip off:biggrin:
Of course with women it's harder as they can be so damn sneaky! People try and act like men are big liars ,but women are waaaay better at it! I've seen buddies get really screwed trying to be a nice guy and just lose their shirt:frown:
Things are changing though as women make more money and accrue assets I think prenups will be something they'll start to ask for upfront.
