That little Bi@#h is crazy!!!!

[53heloFE]

Realy sorry to hear about that, and even though so many people have said better to find out now than after the wedding I know it probably doesn't make it hurt less. It is true though, getting a divorce was such a pain in the rear, not to mention the years leading up to it.

If she cancelled events without your knowing it then all of this was pre-planned by her. I would talk to your attorney about suing her. What she did was premeditated, and I am sure she knew you could not get any refunds. There was no reason for her to do any of the canceling, especially if she did not pay for it. If she was not the one who paid and signed the contract then I wouldn't understand how she could legally cancel anything. I would print out everything she is saying online and sue her for defamation of character. You don't deserve to be taken to the cleaners by someone so dishonest.

Best of luck to you in whatever you decide to do though.

 

[SilverStone05]

I've found your NEW AVATAR........!!!!!!

BWAHAHAHAH

 

[MJK]

Another for your consideration:
:biggrin:

 

[MiamiMermaid]

OK. Allow me to rant and rave about my Ex here for minute.

We were together for 11 yrs and I thought it was a very good relationship. We were always happy and never really had too many problems. In fact we were engaged to be married this Oct 14th. The engagement was for a little over two yrs and it was really a fun time for us. We always knew we were gonna be married so we waited until we were financially and mentaly mature enough. Im now 29 and she is 26.

Well, I finished paying her collage off this past spring and we were planning our wedding. Finances were tight but I could handle it. She had a job but it wasn't much. Her family was not going to pay for the big wedding she always wanted so of course it was on me. No biggie, its what she wanted and I wouldn't have it any other way. She plans this thing down to the very last detail, and I mean everything. Me, being the jackass I am, wanted to have the wedding paid in full before the actual event so as to eliminate any debt at the beggining of our married life. So as I pay off the wedding, which was just south of $41K... All is well right? WRONG!!!

She comes home one day and tells me that she doesn't want to get married and her feelings have changed for me. Then she says that her feelings actually changed a few years ago and she was just with me out of pity!!! WTF! I would sure as hell like to know that two yrs ago. Well, this was 8 weeks ago and being how that was only 3 and a half months before the wedding, NO REFUNDS!!! $$$ GONE!!!

Now, I find out from friends that she is putting a little story together on all those internet Blog things that depicts her as a saint and me as a A-hole. I read what she wrote and my jaw dropped. Im not gonna give the site because its that bad. One example is that she said when I asked her to marry me, she said no so I got mad and threw the ring at her. The next day she felt sorry for me so she said yes....BULLSH!T I asked her and she went to pieces. Called her parents into the room and all her sisters to celebrate her excitment.

So now, Im out $40K in wedding expences, Being slammed on the net, and I still owe money on the ring I got here, $14K.....

I was totaly hurt by the ending of our relationship, but now Im just plain mad!

What would you do??????

And yes, thats her in my avatar.

I'm sorry to hear of this. Just know, you sound like a caring , loving individual. Please!! don't let that change!! Don't let that go away, because, I can guarantee, a woman who is WORTHY of your love will be around the way. But, still very heartening( <---is that even a word? ). I hear you, I was engaged, and moved from Miami to Memphis (he played football there). He ended up quitting the team and I stayed to finish the semester. Broke up. I then went on to LA and then was supposed to get married (same man -or should I say, boy), so! I moved back to Miami (after I had a full scholarship & home in LA). Didn't work out. BUT!!! alas, there is always a reason for things that happen such as this. I still don't know why, but , *the Higher Power* knows what He/She is doing... With that, stay Who you Are, and know that a better opportunity will be knocking at your door. :wink:

 

[Shumdit]

I'm sorry to hear of this. Just know, you sound like a caring , loving individual. Please!! don't let that change!! Don't let that go away, because, I can guarantee, a woman who is WORTHY of your love will be around the way. But, still very heartening( <---is that even a word? ). I hear you, I was engaged, and moved from Miami to Memphis (he played football there). He ended up quitting the team and I stayed to finish the semester. Broke up. I then went on to LA and then was supposed to get married (same man -or should I say, boy), so! I moved back to Miami (after I had a full scholarship & home in LA). Didn't work out. BUT!!! alas, there is always a reason for things that happen such as this. I still don't know why, but , *the Higher Power* knows what He/She is doing... With that, stay Who you Are, and know that a better opportunity will be knocking at your door. :wink:

Dawn, it was fate: He was probably too big to fit in the NSX comfortably, and that would be a hard choice to make: NSX or Soulmate :biggrin: :biggrin:

 

[MiamiMermaid]

The first thing you should do is probably change your avatar.

You said that you guys have been together for 11 years and she's only 26. I've never met her or you, but since she was only 15 then and this is probably the only relationship she's been in, maybe she's kind of relationship immature or challenged? Not in a bad way, it's just that this relationship is probably all she has known.

Just be careful and don't start badmouthing her and making up stories online like you say she's doing. It will only make you look like the ass.

X-cellent point, White. I say be "Above". I have this quote someone gave me. I hope it helps: "Every good thought you think contributes the the ultimate result of your life."

 

[53heloFE]

BUT!!! alas, there is always a reason for things that happen such as this. I still don't know why, but , *the Higher Power* knows

I agree. Even when things suck they seem to work out for the best. Though sometimes it can take a while before we understand the "best". I lost a fiance over a year ago, not to cold feet but to cancer. Doesn't really matter how it happens, when it sux it sux.

 

[MiamiMermaid]

I have 4 words: "never trust a b!tch."

Women do this stuff all the time. In my divorce, mine accused me to the police of being the DC Sniper. It gets worse than what you got, trust me.

Don't pay for anyone else's college or other large expenses unless YOU have a commitment. I know a girl who did that for a guy. Soon as he got out of law school, he left her. Never, never, never give and give unless you're getting some security in return.

This girl took advantage of you and she's lying on the net because that's what women do. Don't expect the truth from her. She's trying to rationalize.

WOOOOOOAAAHHH! Cowboy, You Must Chill! "What women do???????" NOT!!!!! That is bologna!!!!!! with a capital B* (not being b!ch word!!! :cough cough ). Just as you stated, it happenz among BOTH! sexes.

But, I will agree about you re: paying for something without a commitment.

Lift: healing in order ?

Not Every Woman is alike.
Not Every Man either.
We all have Hearts.
They can be Broken &
They can be Healed.

 

[loNfastNSX]

Another for your consideration:
:biggrin:

Oh man, somebody please format this for my new Avatar! White 94 just got a beer at Expo! I wont be there, but Ill make sure he gets it!

I havent stopped ROTFL since Ive seen it!!!!!

 

[4AU4LIFE]

I agree about changing your avatar very soon. I would've done that first time I got back on Prime.
I have never met you but can understand your pain. Most of us have been in similar situations, although probably without the $$ that is involved, so we can totally understand.
It sounds like she would love it if you had to sell the car to pay back the money. That would be a shame.
Really sux that she is fooling around with your friend(?). Although right now he may not be, in the future you may find that he ended up doing you a real big favor.
Stay strong, keep your head up and you will get thru this.
Remember, God never puts us into a situation that we can't handle.

 

[MJK]

Oh man, somebody please format this for my new Avatar! White 94 just got a beer at Expo! I wont be there, but Ill make sure he gets it!

I havent stopped ROTFL since Ive seen it!!!!!

Glad you like it! It should do fine as attached. Just save it to your computer, then go into your control panel and select/upload it. I just tried it, and it works for me.

I'll catch that beer some other time, as I won't be breaking my NSXPO curse this year either. I hear NSXPO next year is in a place that has plenty of palm trees and friends, so I will certainly be there. Hope you will be too.

 

[Juice]

If everything is paid for, can some of the wedding stuff be shifted to a later date? I'm sure somebody could use whatever is involved. Sorry, but I don't know much about these things; other than women will pull the rug from under you. My ex left me after I bought us a house and her a boob job. I left for Japan, came back two weeks later and she had a new boob job, a new boyfriend, and the new diamond earings that I had just given her. Ahhhhh, gotta love those women.

Best advice dude, salvage as much cash as possible and just ignore her outright. She isn't done with you yet. Trust me! I can tell you really care for her by the fact you STILL haven't dropped your avatar. She will use that to her advantage. If you can ignore her and push her out of your heart, you win. If not, she'll keep on kicking you. Oh the stories I could tell....

 

[The Kid]

With that, stay Who you Are, and know that a better opportunity will be knocking at your door. :wink:

Ive seen those pics of you with your NSX; and I unfortunatly didnt hear the knock on MY door! A woman who drives an NSX and who is attractive? You had me at hello :biggrin:

 

[MJK]

There is definitely a fine line between nice guy and a sucker. If you are still paying her phone bills 2 mo after she took up with your friend, then you are on the wrong side of that line. IMO, get on with your life and change your phone number immediately after giving your friend a swift kick in the nuts.

 

[jalnjr]

ugly situation

make-over by the prime dental corps....
reveals her inner beauty...

what a mess, patrick. be GLAD you're finished with her scene.



no furry little creatures were hurt to produce this graphic...yet

 

[MiamiMermaid]

I agree about changing your avatar very soon.
Stay strong, keep your head up and you will get thru this.
Remember, God never puts us into a situation that we can't handle.

:wink:

 

[blackcat]

I really feel for you that sucks big time.... If you ever do get married make sure you get a PRENUP... Have a attorney for you and have her have her own attorney....

Listen to this business proposition I would like to partner with you where you stand to lose half of ALL of your assets where she can come into the "union" with absolutely nothing....

On a humorous note I was watching "Rome" on HBO and I thought it was better when women had to obey whatever the man had to say... :biggrin: I know I know a lot of flak will come from this statement but the "caveman" in me had to laugh! :tongue:

I had a neighbor that used to be a Yacht builder... He made his fortune in the business and is retired and travels the world... The advice he gave me was not to buy the 3 F's in the world but lease them instead.

If it FLIES, FLOATS, or F#CKS, lease it don't buy it!!!!
(Basically saying the depreciation is astronomical on any of the F's.....)

 

[MiamiMermaid]

If everything is paid for, can some of the wedding stuff be shifted to a later date? I'm sure somebody could use whatever is involved. Sorry, but I don't know much about these things; other than women will pull the rug from under you. My ex left me after I bought us a house and her a boob job. I left for Japan, came back two weeks later and she had a new boob job, a new boyfriend, and the new diamond earings that I had just given her. Ahhhhh, gotta love those women.

Best advice dude, salvage as much cash as possible and just ignore her outright. She isn't done with you yet. Trust me! I can tell you really care for her by the fact you STILL haven't dropped your avatar. She will use that to her advantage. If you can ignore her and push her out of your heart, you win. If not, she'll keep on kicking you. Oh the stories I could tell....

OMG. Sorry guy'z but I felt a female needed to add on to this thread. NOT ALL WOMEN ARE JERX. Just my 2 pennies worth.

 

[GT-N]

sorry mods, but PH@CK HER!! believe in karma man

 

[blackcat]

Okay Just the Facts

1. Women are not as happy as they were several decades ago

2. women are more picky about whom and when they marry

3. sex and childbearing have been distanced from marriage

4. people have less faith in the institution from marriage

5. social attitudes towards love, freedom, and marriage have changed.

These are facts that have been derived from large surveys throughout the US.

 

[blackcat]

the most obvious way to see how women are crazy is to just go to the grocery store... Do you see the tabloids that are marketed towards "most women"

"How to make your man spend more money on you"
"how to make your ass not so big"
"how to be this yada yada yada"

Not to mention Oprah and all the other worthless daytime talk show that are marketed towards women sitting on their ass at home.

Have you ever wondered if the world needed a decisive decision that had to mean saved lives??? Well don't make a woman make that decision. Hilary Clinton..... HELL NO...

 

[ediddynsx]

Hey man,


I am so freaking sorry that happened to you. It seemed like she either planned this whole thing or shes not all there in the head. But maybe you can save your money by rescheduling for a birthday party for yourself next year. :biggrin: Other than that bro just move on and do way better then her. That is one evil person to do that to you and then flip it up like its your fault. Thats why guys are players . Girls now a days are just money hungry groupie hungry scandalous Hos!!!!!!! Too much MTV and BET...... I mean you see like 12 year old girls rocking name brand purses. I mean I am not that old myself but man the kids now a days are growing up fast. So just go back to the single bachelor days and have some fun until you meet the next qualified wifey and make sure you do not do the same mistake of paying for everything!!!!! :tongue: and DO NOT I REPEAT DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT GETTING BACK WITH HER! even if she wants you back.....you will just be asking for it........take cares and good luck bro........hakuntamatata! :biggrin: change your freaking avatar too I would punch the laptop everytime I see that picture if I were you. :tongue:

 

[ediddynsx]

oh yeah by the way not all women are bad :smile: especially if they own an nsx cough (miamimermaid is cools) :biggrin: :tongue:

 

[zahntech]

Hummm...this is all very interesting but as far as for the

"Listen to this business proposition I would like to partner with you where you stand to lose half of ALL of your assets where she can come into the "union" with absolutely nothing.... "


that is very egotistical! you are assuming that if you are the man you have all the assets and she has nothing....I suppose that if you date gold diggers and are so shallow as that you must have some super hot bitch..than that might be true .....

my wife makes more money than I do and has the potential to make a lot more in the future so It would seem that I am the one that has the good end of the business deal...

 

[blackcat]

Hummm...this is all very interesting but as far as for the

"Listen to this business proposition I would like to partner with you where you stand to lose half of ALL of your assets where she can come into the "union" with absolutely nothing.... "


that is very egotistical! you are assuming that if you are the man you have all the assets and she has nothing....I suppose that if you date gold diggers and are so shallow as that you must have some super hot bitch..than that might be true .....

my wife makes more money than I do and has the potential to make a lot more in the future so It would seem that I am the one that has the good end of the business deal...

I agree with you to a extent but I cannot tell you how far one sided the court systems are favored towards women in the case of divorce. Facts are facts and getting divorced is a tragedy that can financially and emotionally cripple a man.