docjohn said:
Actually, I think you have full rights to the ring. It was given as a token of a verbal contract of getting married. She broke the contract so she owes you the ring back.
That little Bi@#h is crazy!!!!
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Actually, I think you have full rights to the ring. It was given as a token of a verbal contract of getting married. She broke the contract so she owes you the ring back.
2 things................... 1) Its cheaper to dump 40 grand now than 4 times that much a few years down the road. 2) You can salvage half the money by changing the reception to a bachelor party, and using the honeymoon part to bang all the would be bridesmaid.
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Holy cow!!! That SUCKS!!
Sorry to hear that. But $41k for a wedding?? I would never pay more than $10k for a wedding, and even $5k is a lot of money.
However, here's a thought - are there penalties for re-scheduling?
If it costs very little re-schedule, then consider rescheduling for another year or two. Who knows, you may meet the right girl, and the wedding's all paid for already. Or at worst, you could eBay the wedding for next year or after, and recoup some of your cost.
Finally, may I advise that you forget about the ex and the 11 years as soon as possible. If this means moving out of your house, so be it. Your emotional health is the most important thing.
Best of luck.
Sorry to hear that. But $41k for a wedding?? I would never pay more than $10k for a wedding, and even $5k is a lot of money.
However, here's a thought - are there penalties for re-scheduling?
If it costs very little re-schedule, then consider rescheduling for another year or two. Who knows, you may meet the right girl, and the wedding's all paid for already. Or at worst, you could eBay the wedding for next year or after, and recoup some of your cost.
Finally, may I advise that you forget about the ex and the 11 years as soon as possible. If this means moving out of your house, so be it. Your emotional health is the most important thing.
Best of luck.
MiamieNeSeX said:
Grey Goose and I have become good friends the last couple months. :smile:
Cut your losses and move on, cut the contact. The sooner the better.
Sue her if that's the American thing to do..you probably have enough evidence to make her look deceitful and such that she is responsible for the expenses you incurred. However, for me I'd cut it and move on, it's probably not worth your time.
Sue her if that's the American thing to do..you probably have enough evidence to make her look deceitful and such that she is responsible for the expenses you incurred. However, for me I'd cut it and move on, it's probably not worth your time.
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Keep your head up. What goes around comes around.
Sounds like that woman didn't deserve you anyway. The balls on her to accept so much money from you, allow you to pay for a wedding, bail on you and then slander you.
One word of advice, though:
When she comes crawling back, dont' give in. It's going to be difficult, but don't do it.
Cheers for being rid of a big problem in the making,
Edward
Sounds like that woman didn't deserve you anyway. The balls on her to accept so much money from you, allow you to pay for a wedding, bail on you and then slander you.
One word of advice, though:
When she comes crawling back, dont' give in. It's going to be difficult, but don't do it.
Cheers for being rid of a big problem in the making,
Edward
You've got some very good advice here.
A very similar thing happned to me years ago. I was extremely pissed / hurt / confused at the time but it was an absolute blessing that I found out who she really was when I did. You'll go through a rough spot, but hang in there, try and get as much of your cash back as you can, set the record straight where it is possible (might as well write any of her friends/family off) and get on about building a better life for yourself.
I echo everyone's condolences, and agree that it is MUCH better this happened now. I'm also with Ed (above) - when she comes back politely but firmly tell her to stay the hell away.
Good luck, and enjoy the single life again. You've got free beer in Baltimore too.
A very similar thing happned to me years ago. I was extremely pissed / hurt / confused at the time but it was an absolute blessing that I found out who she really was when I did. You'll go through a rough spot, but hang in there, try and get as much of your cash back as you can, set the record straight where it is possible (might as well write any of her friends/family off) and get on about building a better life for yourself.
I echo everyone's condolences, and agree that it is MUCH better this happened now. I'm also with Ed (above) - when she comes back politely but firmly tell her to stay the hell away.
Good luck, and enjoy the single life again. You've got free beer in Baltimore too.
chumch said:
I agree about the ring. You might ask your attorney how engagement rings have been handled by the Texas courts, but, in general, they are conditional gifts. That is, if the condition of marriage is not fulfilled, you get the ring back (or the value of the ring). You probably can't recover the education expenses because they were a gift, unless she commited some sort of fraud in convincing you to pay for them. For instance, if she was cheating or had told others that she was going to break up with you after you paid the loans off.
Good luck. What she did is just not right.
Try this link for more info on engagement rings:
http://writ.news.findlaw.com/grossman/20011023.html
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PAtrick Patrick PATRICK, I said it plenty of times, I feel ya bro, sux happends to the best of us.
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May the forceloNfastNSX said:
Armando
dave22 said:
BWAHHHHhhahaahahahahahahahaah
The devil in disguise. Im not actually that mad at her for backing out. So dont get me wrong. In not gonna go after her and make her suffer, ...MUCH. :redface: Just Kidding! I just think its nuts that she goes on a public web ring and lie about me, thats all. Kind of a kick in the nuts. This thread is definately making it better. MILLION THANKS GUYS!!!! :biggrin:
Sorry to hear what happened. REMOVE HER FROM UR AVATAR! Do you think another guy is invovled?
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I know there is. A good friend of mine too. But it is of course denied to the fullest extent. But I pay the damn phone bill.
loNfastNSX said:I know there is. A good friend of mine too. But it is of course denied to the fullest extent. But I pay the damn phone bill.
OK...This is the point in which I would be kicking someones ASS!!!!
Maybe you could donate the wedding to a couple from NO and write it off on April 15th?
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Armando, compadre, how dare you post an image of a Three Olives girl next to a bottle of Grey Goose? :wink: Personally, I like the smoothness of TO.
MiamieNeSeX said:May the forcebe with you and what ever you do never drink aloneArmando
Armando, compadre, how dare you post an image of a Three Olives girl next to a bottle of Grey Goose? :wink: Personally, I like the smoothness of TO.
Hey Patrick,
Sorry to hear the bad news but, as was posted several times, it really is better that it happened before rather than later.
Anytime your feeling bummed, or just looking to be with others, you are always welcome at our house. There's always a cold beer and I've got a bottle of Johnnie Walker "Blue Label" that I would be glad to share.
Norm & Cathy
Sorry to hear the bad news but, as was posted several times, it really is better that it happened before rather than later.
Anytime your feeling bummed, or just looking to be with others, you are always welcome at our house. There's always a cold beer and I've got a bottle of Johnnie Walker "Blue Label" that I would be glad to share.
Norm & Cathy
Norm said:
Only been single a short time and already getting asked out for drinks...SWEET!
Thanks Norm, I just may take you up on that one of the evenings. Be nice to sit around your pool and have cocktail.
Be thankful that you found out before you married her. Write off the $55K and be happy that you got out that cheap. Sorry, but plenty of cute women out there....(she was cute though)
All i can say is ......be glad that you found out before the wedding. Let it go........life goes on.
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Not to make jest out of your situation (I do feel bad for you)...but look at the bright side.
1) It's only Sept 8. You've got 36 days to find a new wife. The wedding is already paid for.
2) You can always throw a huge party since you've already paid for the place, the food and the band!!!
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1) It's only Sept 8. You've got 36 days to find a new wife. The wedding is already paid for.
2) You can always throw a huge party since you've already paid for the place, the food and the band!!!
:biggrin:
Hey come to think of it....you're one lucky bastard...imagine spending the rest of your life with that B&*^^!!!....gosh! be thankful .... it's time to move on...you'll find somebody who deserves to be your partner in life... :biggrin:
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