That little Bi@#h is crazy!!!!

[loNfastNSX]

That little Bi@#h is crazy!!!!-UPDATE! pg.4

OK. Allow me to rant and rave about my Ex here for minute.

We were together for 11 yrs and I thought it was a very good relationship. We were always happy and never really had too many problems. In fact we were engaged to be married this Oct 14th. The engagement was for a little over two yrs and it was really a fun time for us. We always knew we were gonna be married so we waited until we were financially and mentaly mature enough. Im now 29 and she is 26.

Well, I finished paying her collage off this past spring and we were planning our wedding. Finances were tight but I could handle it. She had a job but it wasn't much. Her family was not going to pay for the big wedding she always wanted so of course it was on me. No biggie, its what she wanted and I wouldn't have it any other way. She plans this thing down to the very last detail, and I mean everything. Me, being the jackass I am, wanted to have the wedding paid in full before the actual event so as to eliminate any debt at the beggining of our married life. So as I pay off the wedding, which was just south of $41K... All is well right? WRONG!!!

She comes home one day and tells me that she doesn't want to get married and her feelings have changed for me. Then she says that her feelings actually changed a few years ago and she was just with me out of pity!!! WTF! I would sure as hell like to know that two yrs ago. Well, this was 8 weeks ago and being how that was only 3 and a half months before the wedding, NO REFUNDS!!! $$$ GONE!!!

Now, I find out from friends that she is putting a little story together on all those internet Blog things that depicts her as a saint and me as a A-hole. I read what she wrote and my jaw dropped. Im not gonna give the site because its that bad. One example is that she said when I asked her to marry me, she said no so I got mad and threw the ring at her. The next day she felt sorry for me so she said yes....BULLSH!T I asked her and she went to pieces. Called her parents into the room and all her sisters to celebrate her excitment.

So now, Im out $40K in wedding expences, Being slammed on the net, and I still owe money on the ring I got here, $14K.....

I was totaly hurt by the ending of our relationship, but now Im just plain mad!

What would you do??????

And yes, thats her in my avatar.

 

[Briank]

We both know what you should do BUT ending up in jail for the rest of your life is not worth it. Lick your wounds and move on at least you still have your NSX. It's likelly once she sees you moving on she will try to be "friends" just close the door on her and move on.

 

[loNfastNSX]

Shes the reason the NSX is for sale. I need to deligate the funds back where they belong.

 

[docjohn]

Well,you have two issues,the personal emotional side,which you will need the support and love of friends and familly to help(counseling might not be bad),and the monetary.You should still be able to recoup some of your $ from advance payment on your wedding,please read the fine print on your contracts,if you can get some legal advice about options on recouping spent $.The ring is really her choice to giveback,but obviously this story has a lot more to it and bloging only muddies the waters.Just be focused on what you want to do,and if she will not work with you in this then all the more reason to cut bait.Consider yourself lucky in that this did'nt happen after you were married and there are no kids ,horrible collateral damage.

 

[steveny]

Same thing happened to my wifes cousin last year. He had the wedding paid for in advance too. SO.....he called up a girlfriend from a few years back and just married her instead!

 

[White92]

The first thing you should do is probably change your avatar.

You said that you guys have been together for 11 years and she's only 26. I've never met her or you, but since she was only 15 then and this is probably the only relationship she's been in, maybe she's kind of relationship immature or challenged? Not in a bad way, it's just that this relationship is probably all she has known.

Just be careful and don't start badmouthing her and making up stories online like you say she's doing. It will only make you look like the ass.

 

[loNfastNSX]

This all hit me from left field. She went to work like normal, kissed me goodbye and asked me what I was gonna cook for dinner. Called me that afternoon and everything was fine then BAM!

Yes, Im very happy that their are no children involved. The wierd thing is that we were in Vegas this past Dec. and she was persistant in getting me to marry here at the casino. My mom would have killed me so I said no lets just stick with the plan.

As far as support, Ive gotten the most support from my NSX buddies here in the southcentral. From cities far and near that have driven down just to have drinks and talk. Thanks guys, you know who you are.

 

[loNfastNSX]

The first thing you should do is probably change your avatar.

You said that you guys have been together for 11 years and she's only 26. I've never met her or you, but since she was only 15 then and this is probably the only relationship she's been in, maybe she's kind of relationship immature or challenged? Not in a bad way, it's just that this relationship is probably all she has known.

Just be careful and don't start badmouthing her and making up stories online like you say she's doing. It will only make you look like the ass.

Your right, it is the only relationship we have both known. She was 15 and I was 18 when we met.

Im not gonna bad mouth her to anyone. I only post this here because I respect the views and thoughts of the NSX Prime crowd. You guys rock!

And that avatar will be changed soon. Im actually fine now. Still a little hurt by everything but it just pushed my buttons to know that she is telling a fabricated version of what happened to the whole world. She has her whole family and many of our mutual friends on those damn sites. To me its humiliating and hurtful. Had I done something wrong to her, then I would completely understand.

 

[NSX-Stalker]

Sorry to hear it.

A friend of mine recently married his girlfriend of 5 years. After about 6 months they started having problems and she confessed that she wasn't in love with him when they got married but thought she could fall back in love. She moved out and is now declaring bancruptcy, which will affect him since they have signed some loans together.

NSX-Stalker

 

[blknsxnoc]

Hey loNfast,

I'm sorry that she did what she did to you but as BrianK already mentioned, OJ and Robert Blake straight wrecked the options for all of us..

Life goes on and time does heal all....

Try and keep the NSX and hang in there.. There will be another...

 

[Yawwn]

I am sorry for your troubles.
The bright side to all this is that now you know what her real personality is like. If you had married her, imagine how much hell you would be living after the wedding. The money you lost now would pale in comparison to how much it could have cost you financially and emotionally. I would say it is a relatively small cost to pay to find out now.
It must be extremely painful to read all the lies in the blogs.
docjohn is spot on with his comments.
Good luck will all this.

 

[ceeya32]

Don't try to figure women out, it's impossible! Same thing happened to me after 21 years of marriage. Remember " It's not how hard you fall. It's how high you bounce back". You will be fine and God Bless, Mike
P.S. It was the best thing that happened to me!

 

[liftshard]

I have 4 words: "never trust a b!tch."

Women do this stuff all the time. In my divorce, mine accused me to the police of being the DC Sniper. It gets worse than what you got, trust me.

Don't pay for anyone else's college or other large expenses unless YOU have a commitment. I know a girl who did that for a guy. Soon as he got out of law school, he left her. Never, never, never give and give unless you're getting some security in return.

This girl took advantage of you and she's lying on the net because that's what women do. Don't expect the truth from her. She's trying to rationalize.

 

[T-Med]

Sell the wedding on ebay!!!!!!!!

Stranger things have been sold there that's for sure!!
Some good advice from some good people here. All I can add is
:frown: :frown: :frown:

Hang in there and look forward to the day when you can
:tongue: :tongue: :tongue: :tongue:
about the whole thing someday!!!! Soon we hope!

Oh yeah, all PhotoShoppers are hereby summoned to take their shot at loNfast's new avatar. :biggrin: :biggrin: :biggrin:

Hang tough, lo and keep your healthy positive attitude about this. It will keep you strong and be your catalyst to better things (women) to come.
And don't cancel the Bachelor Party!!!! Hopefully that's where most of the 40K was going anyway!!!

T-Med

 

[gtr]

Wow . After so many year how could this happen to you? Perhaps you should talk to her family to explain and perhaps they could help you on the 41K you lost?

I believe the emotional struggle you are facing must be great. I hope you can do what you can do and make best of things. Good luck.

 

[schuey1010]

Change that avatar NOW my friend. Be done with her!

Sorry to hear of your troubles. I do like the idea of selling the wedding on Ebay too. If not you could invite all your buddies here on Prime and have one hell of a party to get her off your mind.

 

[White92]

Good idea! I know you probably can't get your money back for the wedding stuff, but is it transferable? You could package it together and sell it on ebay? I'm sure you could get at least some of your money back that way.

By the way, if you ever did want to post her site on here. We could go on there and talk about what a great guy you are and all of the good things you do. Remember that time you rescued and gave mouth to mouth to my 3 month old puppy who had fallen in the storm drain? :wink: :smile:

 

[loNfastNSX]

I thought about the party thing... Big Halloween party at the Houstons Ballroom!!! i got enough food for 350 and All the liquor we can drink.

I wish! Actually as soon as i found out she had already canceled everything without me knowing, and prior to the break up. The ballroom rebooked the date so thats a bust.

Ive tried to get the money back but I hit brickwall every time and so did my attorney. The fine print said that all payments are not subjuect to refund due to cancelation of event.

 

[queenlives]

i'm sure this is a **very** difficult time for you.

$40k's A LOT OF JACK to just say "oh well" and keep shuffling your feet so though it may have been said in jest, selling the wedding as a pre-packaged offering is a hell of an idea... it happens ALL THE TIME in high demand products (exotic cars, next-generation technologies) - think of the exposure you'll get, etc.

were i in your shoes, i'd review each of the event contracts to determine if you may reassign them to another party, then contact each of the providers to discuss. next, i'd contact my atty to help keep me on the right path, then i'd list the package on ebay - i can't imagine the press won't pick this up and you'll have a great oppty to recover some of your investment.

good luck, chin up! (and count your blessings, btw)

 

[bling]

Patrick, I am really sorry to hear about this...it sucks in so many ways.

However, like Yawwn said, you should be glad it happen now, not after the wedding. This tells you exactly who she is and how she handles "problem".

Try selling your reservation on ebay is not a bad idea....

Remember, time will heal and hopefully when you look back in the future, it's something you can just laugh at.

Cheers

 

[White92]

haha! I can see the press getting wind of this too if it ends up on Ebay. It will get a hell of alot more exposure for you than her little site ever will. Remember the DJ in the UK whose wife sold his Lotus for next to nothing?

i'm sure this is a **very** difficult time for you.

$40k's A LOT OF JACK to just say "oh well" and keep shuffling your feet so though it may have been said in jest, selling the wedding as a pre-packaged offering is a hell of an idea... it happens ALL THE TIME in high demand products (exotic cars, next-generation technologies) - think of the exposure you'll get, etc.

were i in your shoes, i'd review each of the event contracts to determine if you may reassign them to another party, then contact each of the providers to discuss. next, i'd contact my atty to help keep me on the right path, then i'd list the package on ebay - i can't imagine the press won't pick this up and you'll have a great oppty to recover some of your investment.

good luck, chin up! (and count your blessings, btw)

 

[Shumdit]

As the old Joke goes "Why are divorces so expensive?"

BECAUSE THEY ARE WORTH IT!

You could have gotten married, then a year from now with a baby on the way and/or a big mortgage this could have happened and it would have cost you on both ends. So be thankful for that at least. I am lucky to have a wife I love, and who I pray feels the same way (if not I will post my story too! :biggrin: )

Keep your chin up, and give her a few days to get her head cleared before you discuss the situation, as it could be a bad case of cold feet.

 

[Klayton]

overreacting?

I have 4 words: "never trust a b!tch."[..]

exactly what i expected from you :frown:

We both know what you should do BUT ending up in jail for the rest of your life is not worth it. [..]

you guys scare me. one relationship gone bad and you talk about killing someone or to not trust any woman on earth? what the f**k

sure its bad and everything, i dont want to offend anyone but we just heard loNfastNSXs opinion, or how he felt about everything. maybe his ex-girlfriend didnt felt about everything like he did and had some serious problems with the relationship and didnt knew how to handle it, so she pulled the emergency brake.

JMO

 

[donwon]

That sux man. I got you for a beer or 1200 when I get down there.

 

[loNfastNSX]

That sux man. I got you for a beer or 1200 when I get down there.

Its on like a pot of neck bones brotha. :wink:


Klayton-

Your right, but Im just letting everyone know whats up. She may have many reasons to back out but she should have done it well before I went through so much expence bth emotionaly and monitarily. Also If she knew or even had and idea that she felt this way years ago, she should have been truthful with me and my family.

I left out that she wanted a big dinner party with my whole family to anounce our engagment to them. Also she had lunch with my mom and sister the day before to discuss the wedding plans and details. Kinda Fuck3d up if you ask me.