Divorce
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Pre-nuptual agreement...... You wouldn't start a business, drive, own a home, etc..... without getting insurance, would you???? You're gonna be taken to the cleaners....
dyee
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dyee
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Pre-nuptual agreement...... You wouldn't start a business, drive, own a home, etc..... without getting insurance, would you???? You're gonna be taken to the cleaners....
dyee
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Option 1
Move to Florida (no fault state) she's only entitled to 50% of your stuff, but you are entitled to 50% of her stuff.
Option 2
Take her to Everglades National Park buy two tickets 20 bucks, feed the gators.................:smile:
Armando
Move to Florida (no fault state) she's only entitled to 50% of your stuff, but you are entitled to 50% of her stuff.
Option 2
Take her to Everglades National Park buy two tickets 20 bucks, feed the gators.................:smile:
Armando
If you paid for all her stuff then you paid 100%. Now you are only going to get back 50% of that plus give up 50% of all your stuff that you paid 100% for.
OR
You can sell me your NSX at 50% off and then she will get 1/2 as much as she would have. I like silver.
LMAO, so true though :biggrin:
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I don't see any incentive for a man to enter into a marriage...the deck is just stacked against us legally and financially. You cheat on her, she gets half your stuff. She cheats on you, she gets half your stuff....bah.
Finished mine about six months ago. Cost me hundreds of thousands of dollars. Just be prepared to suck it up. Mine took almost two years and there were no children involved. Mine was in a no fault state and no community property state. If you're in a community property state, you're dead meat.
1. Make SURE you have a tax attorney or accountant involved as well as a divorce attorney. If you don't, it could cost you LOTS in the future. There are current and future tax implications.
2. Don't get angry or try to get even. It's only going to cost you more and it's not worth it.
3. Think only about getting on with your life.
4. If you have children, that should be your first priority. As much as you may dislike it, they need a mother and a father.
5. Stay in contact with your NSX buddies and other friends. Mine kept me from feeling the wheels were falling off the wagon.
6. Forget who is right or wrong. It doesn't matter. It's over.
7. The best revenge is ambivilance. Don't carry baggage for the rest of your life.
8. Avoid court if possible. If you have to go to court it's going to cost you twice as much and you're still going to get screwed.
Six months later...My life couldn't be better.:biggrin:
Good luck.
1. Make SURE you have a tax attorney or accountant involved as well as a divorce attorney. If you don't, it could cost you LOTS in the future. There are current and future tax implications.
2. Don't get angry or try to get even. It's only going to cost you more and it's not worth it.
3. Think only about getting on with your life.
4. If you have children, that should be your first priority. As much as you may dislike it, they need a mother and a father.
5. Stay in contact with your NSX buddies and other friends. Mine kept me from feeling the wheels were falling off the wagon.
6. Forget who is right or wrong. It doesn't matter. It's over.
7. The best revenge is ambivilance. Don't carry baggage for the rest of your life.
8. Avoid court if possible. If you have to go to court it's going to cost you twice as much and you're still going to get screwed.
Six months later...My life couldn't be better.:biggrin:
Good luck.
That's just wrong!
I'm with ya there!
Plenty of incentive to marry a rich woman:wink:
Why haven't divorce laws ever been rewritten?
I mean if we are supposed to pay for the lifestyle she was accustomed to what about the lifestyle we've become accustomed to. I had a buddy who ended up living in a garage ( 2.5 plus as he liked to call it ) after a divorce. She pulled every dirty trick in the book and got everything. Judge just kept siding with her no matter what
Get this he lives in California and through some strange crux of justice even though she's remarried she still gets to raise child support for the one she had with him because she has two new kids with her new husband WTF!
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yeah me neither. it's nuts. kinda like buying a boat, when you know you're going to get hosed in the end.
It's can be even worse than that. If she cheats on you and get pregnant and has the baby. The husband is considered the father and will HAVE to pay child support because the baby was born while in wedlock. Once again good reason why not to get married.
I have a prenup. A damn good one. Although I am not worried in the least bit. We have been together for 10 years and not one fight.
I love that show Maury or Montel when they do the DNA checks. One of the few brain rot shows I watch. Very entertaining.
I've been divorced 3 times. It mostly depends on how long you were married and what state you live in and of course if you had any kids. There is no easy answer to your question.........
This all reminds me of advice I was given when I went through mine a while back: "What's her's is her's and what's your's is half her's so you'd better be prepared to lose your a$$"! Unless, as others have said, you have a good prenup. Of course I was young and stupid back then! :frown:
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I'm so glad I'm never going to get married.
Even if DNA proves your not the father
I truly don't know why people get married in LA.
I can't watch that stuff. I tried a couple of times ,but then they showed some chick who was on her sixth guy and still wasn't the "baby daddy" I had to turn it off as I felt so embarrassed for the child:frown:
Divorce was the hardest thing I have ever done and the best thing I have ever done all at the same time. Look at it as a great chance to down size and simplify you life. I went from 6000 sq ft house to renting a room from a friend, climbing the property ladder is not all its cracked up to be. Find a good lawyer and expect to pay them well, mine was great and I would have paid him twice. Took me about 5 years to recover financially then let my self get into a relationship that sidetracked me for a couple of years but back on track now. Build a full life for yourself and then meet someone who has a full life to share some time with.
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Even if DNA proves your not the father
I truly don't know why people get married in LA.
I can't watch that stuff. I tried a couple of times ,but then they showed some chick who was on her sixth guy and still wasn't the "baby daddy" I had to turn it off as I felt so embarrassed for the child:frown:
In the state of North Carolina, where I was divorced, it's not true. The "father" as determined by DNA testing is financially responsible. No, it didn't hapen to me, but I read the case law.
I also went through a divorce and the mental toll it takes on you is a lot worse than the financial hardship at the time. I got lucky and had an uncontested divorce, but I was preparred for the future. Even after the settlement I got the ex to sign quit claim deeds for my house, medical condo, and practice. You can never have enough safety parachutes.
I also know of a few good attornies who can handle any situation. :wink:
I also know of a few good attornies who can handle any situation. :wink:
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Worst emotional sh*tstorm I ever experienced...but financially I didn't get nailed because I didn't make enough money at the time to get nailed....Apart from the other advice already given, I'll add this; If there's kids involved, don't feel you have to find a new place as close as possible to the kids and their mom. Find the place that's best for you....as long as it's a reasonable driving distance from the kids' primary residence, there should not be a problem. Also, the drive time between residences is a good time to talk w/ the kids. I also think that putting somewhat of a distance between yourself and the ex is conductive to breaking free of the past and starting a new chapter in your life. After the storm passed, I realized that I was still intact....although I nearly dismantled myself from all the "action" I got later :biggrin:
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Sorry to hear about your situation Sarge. I actually just went through a divorce, in fact, I received the final papers on Valentine's Day, how ironic is that. Anyways, I was fortunate in my divorce, it was amicable, and we easily came to an agreement on how to split things up. The only advice I have is to try to keep things as civil/friendly as possible. With so many thoughts/fears/emotions going on in my head, I can't imagine having to go through a divorce if we were at each other's throats. Plus, I'm a huge believer of things happening for a reason, and my divorce, although painful, is just another step towards something greater in life...
Good luck...
Good luck...
I don't know the logistics(I've never been married or plan to be), but my old neighbor who was this super nice guy got divorced a second time. Rumor has it he intentionally got fired from his job so he could tell the courts he didn't make much money. Not sure the details, or if it's legal(its probably not), etc.
