Go with the honda all day lomg. She will def. love it and the options it has in it. I have a 02 and worked at honda for a short time. They are well cheaper to own then any other vehicle out there. They are more new but buying a used one from dealer with extended warranty is the way to go. The funny thing is you get a better warranty on a used honda then a new one. When it comes to reliability. Honda says it all. Just make sure the tranny recall/warranty was done on certain years. They had a issue were the 3rd gear slipped. if the van is used with less then 100k. you can still take it to honda and have it done for free.
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Can't go wrong with a Certified Used Honda!! If money is an issue like you say, these Certified vehicles have a decent warranty, as well as optional additional coverage if you want total protection.