so was the gasket bulged out evenly the second time?
I noticed mine is only bulged out around the where the bolts are on the pan.
Just trying to learn the proper procedures.....
Getting stamped steel oil pans to seal is a dark art. A bit like getting old school engines with stamped steel valve covers to seal. That said, the 20 year old gasket on my pan remains dry so somebody at the factory knew the dark art.
The fact that your gasket is bulging under the bolt holes suggests that the flange of the steel pan has been distorted. This might be because the pan bolts were tightened too much in the past. If the pan mounting flange has been permanently distorted a new gasket is likely not going to fix the problem. If the pan is distorted around the mounting holes it may or may not be possible to straighten out the flange surface.
I am not a super fan of silicone based sealants / gasket makers. I do like the non hardening thin bodied sealants like hylomar or the Permatex Permashield. On jobs like the pan gasket I have used Permashield as a dressing on both sides of the gasket. However, Permashield is not a big gap filler. If the pan is distorted it won't make up for distortion in the mounting flange. I do like [MENTION=18194]Honcho[/MENTION] 's idea of Loctite on the pan bolt threads to make sure that they don't back out. The rubber gaskets will always tend to relax under pressure which means that you can lose retention force on the bolt. With the Loctite you have some insurance allowing you to go on the light side of the tightening torque number.
That aluminum gasket mystifies me. The aluminum will resist distortion; however, unless you use a flange sealant I am having a hard time seeing that you are going to get a good seal between the steel pan and the aluminum gasket (and the aluminum gasket and the aluminum block surface). Is it very soft aluminum? I know its not what is intended; but, I would be tempted to use a conventional gasket and sealant between the block and the pan and then use the aluminum gasket on the outside of the pan under the bolts as a reinforcement to help distribute the clamping force of the bolts and reduce distortion of the pan.