I think a lot of these threads come down to "I really dont want to have to do it, and I want to feel ok about that"
We should create some kind of really simple sticky. Its your car. If you want to change it once every 90k miles even if that takes 35 years, knock yourself out.
But what SHOULD you do? You should change it when the book says. The rest is just endless argument based on largely subjective personal opinion, anecdotal evidence, specific bias one way or the other, etc.
There are Ferraris that go without a major 10 years also and a Ferrari is *far* more prone to failure outside of the change interval.
Neglect is neglect though. To me, and I think to most buyers, a car where the maintenance schedule has been flagrantly ignored is abused.
It's also kind of funny that there are 1000's of threads with cars having $50,000 wide body conversions, $10k in insane lowering and "HELLA FLUSH!" suspension and wheel work, massive power add mods to the tune of $20k+, and there are NO questions about the money getting poured in, yet this $2000 vital service is so controversial! LOL
Why is it that people have no issues buying an NSX, completely taking it apart and rebuilding it into something completely different (sinking the cost of a condo into it) and yet SO FEW cars have EVER had a TB changed!?
My car is the same... It passed through *two* Primers before me and has >$30K in mods and yet it fell to ME to do the *first* TB/WP on a 99! LOL