I don't think they're snowing you at all - giving quite credible answers.
It is true that the Leds will be much more susceptible to voltage spikes than incandescents.
When sizing the current limit resistors for LEDs the manufacturer tries to keep at max current for peak light intensity & selects a resistor based on what they expect the 'typical' peak voltage would be. Now the NSX actually runs quite a high voltage off alternator relative to a lot of other cars.
One thing you could try is to add a regulator to each circuit - since these are extremely low current even a simple resistor (in series) followed by a shunt zener would ensure the voltage to the LEDs is clamped.
You could also just consider an integrated regulator - these are actually cheaper than the bulbs! (~ $1.59)
http://www.radioshack.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2062600
If you want you can run a single wire off the output of a single device to both lamps there is plenty of current available through a single device for both.
Actually a 12V regulator barely has enough overhead to work on so you might also consider a variable device configured for 11.25V - that will be barely noticeable in the intensity but offer even greater protection for the LED bulbs
http://www.radioshack.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2062601 - just needs a couple of resistors in addition to the three pin device - only slightly more complex to install. The resistors have been selected to configure for 11.25V output.
Either solution only costs pennies and again, much cheaper than replacing lamps, even once. Should improve your reliability dramatically.