I have repaired a number of ECU's myself, actually, i started my business years ago with repairing ECU's on component level.
The quality of the PCB's used for ECU's is very, very low. I have removed SMD parts from Bosch ECU's, where the PCB would just blister away within a few seconds, and i was using professional tools.
I have proper desoldering machines for desoldering the pin-through parts as used in the Honda ECU, but i have to admitt that when i did mine, i was VERY worried about damaging the PCB.
You can do like 15 at a time, without any trouble, then you get one, which is for some reason different, and pull all tracks off in one go...*major disaster*
Sometimes you just damage the bushing within the pcb, without seeing it, but the ECU will show erratic behaviour.... try to fix that one......
Cutting the legs of the IC is not a very professional way to do it, but, its in this case probably the most safe way of doing it, at least, if they know what they are doing. The tracks on the ECU are so fragile, that touching them with the soldering iron might damage them.
I can understand that your electronics workshop doesn't want to burn its fingers on doing that job. Its like the guys doing the LED taillights at a very high price....the risk is significant.