Hey dude, welcome to NSXprime.
We don't have Dr.Phil on this forum. 28 view hits so far, and nobody has posted a reply. So I'll stick my neck out and be the first.
My heart goes out to you. Relationship problems can be really messy.
Forgive my bluntness, but let's cut to the chase.
You keep going around in circles on the issue of virginity; how special it is to you. If it truly was so special to you, you would have waited until you were older, married, or in a much longer term relationship. A 7mth relationship at the age of 17 seems like a long time, but in reality it isn't. That doesn't mean you don't love her any less. I say this because I think you're making the virginity issue more of an issue than it really is.
From what you've posted (i cant view the 300ZX forums) I believe the deeper issue is not about her virginity, but your own insecurity & fear. I could be totally wrong; examine your heart openly and you'll soon know. Because she already slept with someone that plays on your insecurities and fears of "maybe i'm not good enough". No matter how many times she says you're a Sex God, you'll still crave that reassurance.
It just really pisses me of sometimes because it would randomly pop up in my head once in a while. Just think about it...picturing the girl you love being touched by another guy.
Bingo. That's those insecurities talking to you there.
One thing that seperates men from boys and men from women is a man's ability (or lack of) to control his thoughts and emotions. You'll see women cry without meaning too. But men can control their emotions & thought processes. (that doesnt mean men shouldn't cry; quite the opposite. Also, it doesn't mean women can't either... geez... i love political correctness
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Some of the most admirable men i have met in my life have been those who are strong-minded. Don't confuse that with strong-willed or stubborn, but where a guy can face an issue (talk it out) and then say "ok. so she slept with another guy. i accept that. it's the past".... and then put it behind them and leave it there. If that nagging thought comes back, they deal with it "No. i've dealt with that before. it's no longer an issue". It's not easy... actually, it's sometimes impossible, but that is what makes a man strong.
A man who continually struggles with the same reoccuring issue over and over and over again is weak. (how many of us guys are willing to admit we are weak in areas?
) It's when we overcome a fear, a problem, a situation that we become stronger, and this leads to increasing true self-confidence.
it's getting late here... so i'll wrap this up. just a couple of other thoughts:
Any thought of cheating on her for whatever reason is just BS and plain stupid. You'll be hurting yourself, and you will REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY hurt her. Don't even think about it. Next time that thought comes into your mind, get rid of it. don't entertain it.
See... what we think, is what we speak, is what we believe and what we become. If you think about porn all the time, you'll talk about it and it will effect your character. Before you know it, you'll be making compromises you might not have made otherwise.
Your first post didn't sound good with you lying to her about stuff, she was lying about stuff, you unable to talk to her about this. I'm sure it's worse than it sounds in writing. But if you can't be honest with each other and face these types of issues, then your r/ship won't last. I know you didn't want to hear that. You have to be able to work out stuff like this. when u do, it's meant to make your r/ship stronger. The women i know hate it when a guy dances around an issue. we should just face it. Oh... except facing the issue about how $10,000 ended up in car mods... that's different.
if she's really hurt and wishes she could turn back the past, your insecurity isn't going to help her. I dont mean be fake and put on an act of being strong. just you need to deal honestly with the issue that is causing your heart to be full of fear before you can be strong.
man...i'm tired... and now i'm going around in circles.
Hope this helps you bro. Being a man these days isn't easy. My heart really empathizes with what you and this other guy are going through.
Whenever someone makes that kind of statement it is indicative of being too immature to handle a situation. Have you ever considered that she may eventually cheat on you?
Dude, relax a little. It is not the end of the world. You always think it's the one when your 16 or 17, and if this doesn't work out, then you will find another "one" and then laugh at yourself for thinking like you did. Calm down and let it ride for a while (not literally of course, your only 17
(J/K bro! 
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