NSX over GF?

nordygirl · 20 January 2003

Hi Everyone,
I'm new on this forum and really wanted to know everyones opinion about my question.

My boyfriend has an NSX and I feel that he puts more thought and effort into his car than me. I'm not upset, in fact, I was the one that convinced him to buy the car. I find it very funny how he seems to treat the car better than me. Do you guys treat your car a little better than your significant other? Be honest guys. Are their any females here that can agree with me?

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NSXaholic · 20 January 2003

nordygirl,

I'm so sorry that you feel you're being neglected. I know your boyfriend isn't doing it unintentionally. It's just the NSX casts a bewitching spell on most owners. The combination of the car's looks, performance and downright unbelievable sex-appeal turn even the most jaded car drivers in obsessive fanatics. Is your boyfriend an obsessive-compulsive when it comes down to his "baby" (ahem, the other one that is)? Ask him to take this simple test, answering "Yes" or "No" to the following list of questions:

(1) Does he salivate at the mere mention of those three letters?
(2) Do you find him sleepwalking towards the garage at night?
(3) Does he post more than ten times a day on NSX Prime?
(4) Does the mere sight of a fellow NSX cause him undeniable joy?
(5) Does he break-down in tears when he is driving his NSX and he sees a hint of rain in the horizon?

If he answered "Yes" to any of these questions, he is definitely a fanatic.

But even if he is a NSX-loving maniac, do not fear, for all is not lost. Because while the passion for the vehicle will never wane (once you "X," it's hard to go back), it does at times subside marginally. And it is then that spouses, friends, lovers and all others who have been neglected hope that maybe, just maybe, he realizes that there is life beyond the NSX.

Welcome to our club!!

Regards.

project13nsx · 20 January 2003

HAHAHAAHAH FUNNY!!!!

I'm sure he cares about you. But give him some time. He'll see the big picture.

My gf said the same to me when i got it. that's why it's so funny.

Your BF is just going through a CRAZY INSANE NSXADDIC phase right now.

=) GoodLuck to you both.

NeoNSX · 20 January 2003

Hey NSXaholic... what if i answered 'yes' to ALL of those questions??? *guilty look*

Sorry to hear about that nordygirl, i guess it's a guy thing ... all guys seem to do it; just about different things. (sorry, that's not very compassionate)

nordygirl · 20 January 2003

Okay...4 out 5 he would say yes to.

As the saying goes, "if you can't beat him, join him."

How long does this craze phase really last?

MAJOR STONER · 20 January 2003

Your Motorcar doesn't get upset when you forget it's birthday.

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Joel · 20 January 2003

nordygirl,

In your situation, I think it depends on how long he's had the car in his possession. If it's only been a couple of months or so, then just be patient with him and exercise a little understanding. It is a very honorable concept being able to afford an "exotic sportscar." I mean, how many men can actually say that? Right now he's in his "wow" stage. In that sense, an Acura NSX is definitely a perfect trophy to have in his garage.

If you give him time, it will wear off eventually and he will focus his attention back to you. In the meantime, exert a little energy in understanding his passion for this fine automobile. I'm sure he will be happy to share his enthusiasm with you.

Good luck!

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tewills · 21 January 2003

Originally posted by Joel:
nordygirl,

In your situation, I think it depends on how long he's had the car in his possession. If it's only been a couple of months or so, then just be patient with him and exercise a little understanding. It is a very honorable concept being able to afford an "exotic sportscar." I mean, how many men can actually say that? Right now he's in his "wow" stage. In that sense, an Acura NSX is definitely a perfect trophy to have in his garage.

If you give him time, it will wear off eventually and he will focus his attention back to you. In the meantime, exert a little energy in understanding his passion for this fine automobile. I'm sure he will be happy to share his enthusiasm with you.

Good luck!

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<The following does not refer to committed relationships originating prior to super neat-o car ownership>

I disagree. I think it's more a matter of how long he's had HER in his possession. I don't think anyone but the stoner dude is being honest here. 10 to 1; of you gave him an ultimatum..."me or the car"...you would be greatly dissapointed. 25 to 1; save the ultimatim for a year from now...you get the same answer. Its only going to get worse. He will only become more and more infatuated and protective of his car...as for a woman in a man's life...well you know the opposite is undoubtably true. BTW...I have never had an arguement with my car. It has never asked me to take out the garbage in the middle of a basketball game. And, it has never said it has a headache. Sorry....

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Jimbo · 21 January 2003

Nordygirl,

There's no excuse for someone treating their significant other better than an inanimate object. Of course, it's difficult to offer real suggestions since we don't know the specifics of your situation.

If your boyfriend just got the car and is simply preoccupied with it and he normally treats you fine, I wouldn't worry about it. Otherwise, you might need to take a good look at your relationship.

If you both really care about each other, then each of you should support each other's passions and interests. It's a two-way street. My wife is very supportive of my automotive passions and I try to be equally supportive of hers as well. If you find that this equation is consistently lopsided then something's wrong.

-Jim

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2003 MINI Cooper S - On Order - All Black
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JaguarXJ6 · 21 January 2003

It sounds like you've been together with a closet car fanatic and now that he has one he's proud of, he's a kid right after Christmas.

Its never going to be a happy ending if you make him decide which is more important or you deciding for him.

If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. Doing things together, even if they are important to only one of you or fun to only one of you, is the key to keeping this from getting out of hand.

I know wives and g/f's who work on their husbands or b/f's cars with them, they help detail them after a fun day out, etc. I know husbands who spend time walking or going to church with their wives or doing certain things around the house though I know they absolutely loathe it because its important to do these things for each other and with one another.

Spending SOME time with him during his car fetish phase, be it a couple months or a couple of years or longer, and him spending SOME time with you away from cars, his friends, the television, and other distractions, is as good as its going to get.

Good luck,
Sunny

NeoNSX · 21 January 2003

looking on the bright side (if there is one), at least he is treating the NSX AND YOU okay... if he treats the NSX and neglects you, then u have a serious problem.

HEY GUYS... try to be a little more sensitive... this is a lady's feelings we're talking about here.

nordygirl · 21 January 2003

Guys.....don't get me wrong, I like the car as much as the next person and we do get along well. I feel that after having the car for almost 2 years you would think that his "child like" behavior would wear off by now.

Anyways, I just wanted to say, "thanks" for all the feedbacks.

Major Stoner......do you even like women?

ak · 21 January 2003

Buy yourself a nice car and do the same thing to him that he does to you. He'll get the idea.

nordygirl · 21 January 2003

AK,

Good idea! Maybe I'll buy that 993 Turbo and roast him

JaguarXJ6 · 21 January 2003

Sorry this turned out so long..

It can't be easy coming to a car forum to ask advice on how to combat someone's "car obsession" with such a wide variety of possible responses.

Its like learning to live with a sick relative. You have to accept certain things.

My parents think I'm a loon. My father understands, but didn't express as much fervor as I do with my car fetish as he did with his during his youth. I can't wait to tell them I'm buying a third car (an NSX) in a year or two.

A couple of months ago, I brought my second Jag into work, and the secretary asked "I thought your Jag was black?" and I said "It is." and she replied, "I didn't know you had two" and I said "Yes. I have one and a mistress" and I walked away. Everyone within earshot exploded with laughter.

If you've both read or have seen the Lord of the Rings, there's time for you and him, you him and "Precious," and time for him, "Precious" and his friends.

I have two friends. Both are car and motorcycle nut respectively. One, his wife would walk all over him and he was always the flexible one in the relationship. He's also 10 years younger then her. Another friend, when he first started dating, he told his g/f where his boundries were and if she didn't like it, there's the door. No kidding! They are both working out, but have had some very rough times recently until they finally accepted what they couldn't change in the other. Its allllllll about that communication and compromise.

My sincerest wish for a happy ending.

Sunny

ak · 21 January 2003

Originally posted by nordygirl:
AK,

Good idea! Maybe I'll buy that 993 Turbo and roast him

Good idea! And if he asks to swap rides, tell him "HELL NO, my car is more precious than you and your nsx combined!"

But in any case, to answer your original question, I think my GF would agree with you 100%. In fact, she threatens me that she'll get NSX or something better(as if!

) and cherish it like a baby. haha

nordygirl · 22 January 2003

JaguarXJ6,

I've actually made a lot of compromises just to make him happy and I do it because I want to. I not only get to meet new people when we attend NSX gatherings but I also enjoy them. I thinks it fun and he and I get a chance to spend time together (even if its only for 1 day out of the week). We're both busy and never really find the time. Take pride in what you have and enjoy it.

PS....I would never make him choose, it would be very silly and "child-like" for me to do so

Thanks again!!!

FuryNSX · 22 January 2003

Maybe he likes the car so much 'cuz the trunk is so small, and that keeps the Nordstrom purchases to a minimum.

Hehehehe, nordygirl....hmmmmmmmm

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2001 Odyssey
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2003 Chevy Suburban LT

Jonathan · 22 January 2003

Judging by Fury's comments, I would have the wager the keys to the Suburban are often well hidden

Unfortunately while it is a phase, it is not one he will grow out of. It gets worse over time. A lot worse.

However, if you dig the car, and will go out with him on drives, pretend to have fun, etc.

, you will have a loyal guy for as long as you want - Just make sure he does the same for you.

Trust me though, the 'sickness' does not get better over time.

NeoNSX · 22 January 2003

Originally posted by FuryNSX:
Maybe he likes the car so much 'cuz the trunk is so small, and that keeps the Nordstrom purchases to a minimum.

Hehehehe, nordygirl....hmmmmmmmm

*LOL* cheeky comment.

nordygirl: u probably dont, but in case u do... you dont happen to play the computer games 'Medal of Honour' or 'US Army' online? there was someone on the server today with ur EXACT username!

nordygirl · 23 January 2003

FuryNSX,
OH MY GOD...YOU CRACKED THE CODE!!!

Jonathan,
Wish me luck!!!

NeoNSX,
You're right, I don't play those games. I don't even know what they are.

Bye guys!

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